In Memory

We're having the officiant take a moment of silence during the ceremony, but we've opted not to name names... I know some bride and grooms include a table with pictures and candles in memory of those that have passed, and while I think that's a wonderful idea, there are just too many people on Stan's side that would need to be included.

There was, however, only one person that has passed since we've been together for 7 years - my dear grandfather.

I found a GREAT picture of him and put it into a small frame and have decided that I will place the frame at our table. I was going to ask my grandmother if she wanted it with her, but I can't - it's too hard for me still (been year and half) and I just NEED him by my side in 8 days.

I thought of sharing this because last night while stupidly watching AI, Bette Midler performed Wind Beneath My Wings which I had every intention of having played for my grandparents, my heroes, my lifeline. I can't have it played now because I will become a mess - like I did last night.

She started singing it and immediately the tears started flowing. Stan just sat there, wanting to say some snide remarks about Bette (he's not a fan) but didn't - he knows how much I like the song and how I had every intention of having it played at our wedding.

I got up and found the frame in a bag full of wedding stuff. I placed it on the table and manged to say, "I was going to put this at our table." The tears fell from my face. "Is that OK?"

He looked at the frame, at the picture of my Opa laughing, and said, "Of course it is, sweetheart."

Ack, with time escaping so quickly, I find myself getting more and more emotional with every passing moment...